Archive for November, 2007

Counting my little blessings

November 28, 2007 - 11:18 pm 1 Comment
  • When I return home from work to a clean cosy home and Gean jumps with joy, tells me that she missed me and proceeds to give me a bear hug.
  • When Ger tells Big he has to pamper me more because it’s a “man’s job” (not that he doesn’t :) )
  • When Gean tells me “Mummy you are so pretty.”
  • When Big gives me hugs and kisses randomly
  • When Ger thinks of me and buys a chocolate donut for me
  • When Big gives me a very nice artsy diary from his ad agency supplier because he knows I need it

I melt into a puddle and thank the One above for my little blessings. I am indeed blessed.

Ten signs that he is the One (links)

November 28, 2007 - 10:48 pm 2 Comments

How do you tell if someone is the one? Not everything is about money and splashing out obscene amounts on extravagances all the time. It’s the small thoughtful little gestures and the occasional surprises that mean so much to me, like:

1. When he bothers to buy the food you like from all the way from his office and bring it to you during your lunch time, with flowers.

2. He pampers you in his own little ways like not allowing you to do housework and insisting you rest. And it’s not as if he did not have a long day at work.

3. He celebrates Mother’s Day for you by flying you to Bangkok on an all expense covered trip.

4. He wants to take care of you financially.

5. He makes you laugh until your belly aches and then some.

6. He sleeps on an extremely uncomfortable couch just to take care of you in hospital.

7. He takes the effort to find out what is significant to you. He buys a digital camera for you, knowing how much you value taking pictures as keepsakes for your children, wishing to capture that fleeting memory, that captivating moment.

8. He takes the effort to plan something romantic for your birthday gift, taking careful and thoughtful planning, and not just spend some money to buy you some fancy gift.

9. He adores you even when you have just woken up and look like Madonna in the 80s or after a long day of work looking like something the cat dragged in tired and in his words, ?but still gorgeous?.

10. He wants to make things “official” :P

My Playboy Magazine Cover

November 28, 2007 - 3:04 pm 4 Comments

Here’s how to pimp your way to one. :P

Are you guilty of treating your man as a walking ATM?

November 28, 2007 - 1:17 am 9 Comments

I was reading a blog I saw from Fitti’s blog and was quite turned off. This girl has branded stuff peppered like in every post all over her blog and toots every other post that her husband loves her so much, he insists on her buying things, he spoils her rotten, he pampers her like a princess etc. The list goes on and on in EVERY post. It’s the same. Tooting, flaunting and posturing about her branded gifts from the husband. And it’s not the shopping, but the over “rub it in your face” eagerness to impress that makes me feel that she has severe self esteem issues. Of course that will be my last visit to that particular blog.
Now please don’t get me wrong, I have no objections to branded stuff whatsoever. I love good designer bags and shoes for their quality and for the design. I love fashion. I buy some of my own stuff and Big buys some for me to pamper me. But to center your entire existence on trying to get acceptance and trying to impress with branded stuff is so very sad.

I wonder if she loves the branded stuff more or the husband more.

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I think this post says it the best for me.

My posts about the someone in my life is not about all that shite.

The purpose of my blogging about the nice things he has done for me, the sweetness with which he gives in to me on some issues, and the imperturbable temper (what temper?) he has, as opposed to my nasty spoilt brat tantrums at times, is just that.

To remind myself that he is such a sweet, nice and lovable gem.

To remind myself not to take him for granted.

To remind myself to appreciate him for what he is.

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you have to.

Retail Therapy strikes again (pics)

November 26, 2007 - 10:25 pm 11 Comments


I love the size and the luxurious feel of the leather


I love the hippy looking tree!


Germaine got these for me. So pretty!!


These too! I prefer this set. Am drawn to the kimonos.

SFW: EU Makes Soft Porn Film?!

November 26, 2007 - 9:45 pm 1 Comment

The European Union (EU) is a political and economic community with supranational and intergovernmental features. And yet it has released a soft porn clip for no apparent reason.

The 44-second video, posted on YouTube, opens with a man and a woman stripping each other naked.

It’s followed by a series of passionate clinches in all manner of positions – including two gay couples.

The highly charged scenes are interchanged with snaps of bottles rattling on a shelf and an egg on toast shaking under a grill.

The film, entitled Film Lovers Will Love This, finishes with the couples’ orgasms and the line: “Let’s come together.”

It then tells the audience “Millions of cinema lovers enjoy European films… every year. Europe supports European films”.

Perhaps I am missing the big picture, but can someone fill me on WHY?

Vegetarian Food at Happy Realm (Pearls Centre) with pics

November 26, 2007 - 9:29 pm 3 Comments


Mushroom Spring Rolls


Fried “Egg” and Vegetables


Vegetarian Bee Hoon

They even have vegetarian Sharksfin Soup!! It’s really delicious, I am not kidding. And I forgot to take a picture as is too greedy stuffing my face. LOL

And the best part is, the very delicious meal cost only S$35.40! We ordered fried kang kong and vegetarian sharksfin soup in addition to the above food pics.

Happy Realm Vegetarian Food Centre Pte Ltd

100 Au Tong Sen Street

#03-16

Pearls Centre

Singapore 059812

Tel: 62226141

Blogging and its OB markers

November 26, 2007 - 9:24 pm 2 Comments

Lately when I sit down to blog, an activity that is relaxing and pleasurable to me, I started to feel strange invisible OB Markers in my mind, telling me I cannot blog about this, cannot blog about that.

Have a humourous take on something? Risk being marked as “misleading” and having no “credibility“.

Cover social news like this, this and this and the whining starts because the articles are about rape and therefore sex related. Even an innocent coverage about toys can get flak just because it contains the word rape in the title.

I suppose an article on the man abandoning his pregnant wife is also sex related over because it talks about the pregnant woman and to get pregnant, you need to have sex. How immoral. The pictures in celebration of being 30 might have caused a moral value uproar. This must be the worst as it is PORN!!

Is the younger generation getting more self righteous and more prone to playing the moral police? Self righteousness, moral condescension, sexual frustration, ugly competition or what, I don’t know, but I sure am bemused. I thought I was the one hitting 30, being fuddly duddly and conservative but what do you know.

Well, if it’s bad, I will talk about it and if it’s good, I will also talk about it. It’s MY blog after all. YOU can choose not to click on it.

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So many OB markers, then what else to talk about..Perhaps I shall blog about my pussies.


People can be so stupid


Getting depressive just thinking about it


Fearless in the face of stupidity


No eyes to see lah

Oh damn. Maybe this will also be frowned upon because they are pussies. Imagine, the sexual connotation.

Bollocks, I say.

And yes, I have a fantastic sex life. Take that and chew on it.

*This post is written in a super dulan, sialan and kuailan mood and I am not keeping all that pissed piss inside. And henceforth after spewing out the venom, I shall ignore all crap that makes my toes laugh, take the advice of Paddy and continue to blog in the manner that I choose to.

Girl, 11 gets pregnant and Mum is proud of her for keeping baby

November 26, 2007 - 5:39 pm 7 Comments

As a mum, I am speechless. The girl is 11, she is smoking 20 cigarettes a day (she began smoking at nine and started drinking tonic wine and vodka cocktails at ten). Her mum is “not ashamed” of her daughter at all – in fact, she’s “proud of her for keeping the baby”.

Damn, I’m Illegal!

November 25, 2007 - 11:08 pm 12 Comments

I did this very interesting test from Mandrake’s and it turns out that I am only 14.7!! (Definitely illegal, LOL) It is quite fun and a good wake up call (reminds you to do regular health checks and a personal musing on the state of work/ stress etc). So, go on, have your test done and tell me your real age here.. :)

“Dead” Mum visits son at work

November 25, 2007 - 10:40 pm No Comments

Minutes after he told his boss his mum had died, the “dead” mum visited him at work.

20 Lessons I’ve learnt from the Blogosphere Part 1

November 25, 2007 - 10:34 pm 3 Comments

20 Lessons I have learnt from the Blogosphere Part 1

  1. Sometimes you (I) need to take a chill pill.
  2. Sometimes when no matter how you explain, the other party cannot seem to understand what on earth you are talking about, take a chill pill.
  3. You can’t make everyone like you.
  4. You learn things you might not have known by keeping an open mind during a discussion.
  5. If you find that the discussion is going no where but downhill, remember point 3, and then proceed to point 1.
  6. What’s humorous to you might be misleading to someone else. Once again, point 3.
  7. Jealousy is ugly.
  8. Envy is uglier.
  9. Pride is the ugliest.
  10. Be accountable only to God, yourself, your readers and your conscience.
  11. It’s your blog. Not his blog, not her blog but YOUR blog.
  12. Point 3 again.
  13. Don’t be affected by the 1% of naysayers but focus on the 99% of readers who faithfully click on your blog everyday. You owe it to them to not waste time on people who don’t count.
  14. Statistics speaks louder than anything else.
  15. Readers know the difference between humour and hoodwinking.
  16. You are the pilot of your plane.
  17. Don’t like a blog, don’t click on it/ activate ignore button. You don’t see me pulling the self righteous plug because no one died and made me the Overlord of the Blogosphere. I finally understand how Wendy of Xiaxue feels. What is it about people who claim to hate her blog but repeatedly return to her blog on a long term basis?! A case of morbid attraction? Don’t like it, don’t click! Such a simple thing and people don’t get  it.
  18. Similarly there is no other Overlord of the Blogosphere that I know of..with the exception of perhaps Mr Brown.. any other imposers should be promptly ignored. See point 13.
  19. Will you be ashamed if your parents/ kids/ boss/ colleagues read your blog? Well, I will not.
  20. Have your own code of integrity. For me, I will not post anything that I am not sure about (eg. the link to Rowena Chen), hard porn (which does not include art of the naked body; uptight people will disagree again upon which please see point 10) nor cheap sensational postings about my sex life. Of course, there are some very well written sex blogs out there but that is not for me. Again I don’t judge because: see point 17.

UK’s Oldest Newly-Weds

November 25, 2007 - 9:41 pm No Comments

After just three days of courting James popped the question.

Addicted to the internet? Here’s a Literal Red Hot Solution..

November 25, 2007 - 9:39 pm No Comments

“I was on the internet, and suddenly felt a numbness in my right hand. The arrow on the screen stopped moving,” says Jiang Ming.

About the MDA crappy rap and David Marshall

November 24, 2007 - 10:56 pm 2 Comments

Somemore have Superman and his red brief oneMDA so happening!!

Balderdash has the full lyrics.

It is so painful to watch that I got angrier as the video progressed. This is how they are spending public money. On self gratification (look Ma, I’m a RAP STAR!) and amateurish “song” writing efforts. Even my daughter’s school skit is more enjoyable than this is. Considering how good the MDA is at cutting out parts of others’ movies, they should have done the most important cut in their career: the entire cut of this sad sad video.

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Coincidentally, this video with its sad bunch of middle aged wannabes reminded me of the equally horrendous bunch of MPs dancing at the Chingay Parade.

Sometimes I wish I had been living in the era of the 50s where Lee Kuan Yew and David Marshall had been fighting out their political battles in that fiery, eloquent, charismatic and passionate manner. No manner of such pansy posturing would have been tolerated in that era..

I remember watching videos of LKY’s and David Marshall’s political speeches and debates with my father, and I was floored by both their imposing stances, measured cadences and their arresting eloquence. That passion and that fiery belief… something very sadly absent in the current bunch of lembeh pansies.

Those videos are moldy now and we did not have DVDs back then. But thankfully the essence that is David Marshall, that sharp unerring wit and that acerbic mince-no-words passion is commemorated here. (Thanks to Dharmendra Yadav)

Some extracts :

..In my time, I tried to educate our people in an understanding of the dignity of human life and their right as fellow human beings, and youth was not only interested but excited about what I consider things that matter. Things of the spirit; the development of a human being to his true potential in accordance with his own personal genius in the context of equal rights of others.

Today, youth is interested in getting paper qualification and, as soon as possible, shoveling gold into their bank accounts. It’s a different world, even the law…

…I’ve got nothing against money. I’d like to have money myself! I’d like to have a house and a garden and dogs and a car and a chauffeur but, look, I’ve got a flat. I’ve got a swimming pool attached to the flat. I’ve not even got a car but I use taxis. I have a dignified way of life without being wealthy.

We have lost sight of the joy and excitement of public service, helping our fellow men. The joy and excitement of seeking and understanding of the joy of the miracle of the living the duty and the grandeur. We have lost taste for heroic action in the service of our people….

We have become good bourgeois seeking comfort, security. It’s like seeking a crystal coffin and being fed by intravenous injections through pipes in the crystal coffin; crystal coffins stuck with certificates of your pragmatic abilities.

…The government doesn’t see I do respect them immensely. They don’t see I’m a genuine friend. They only see me as a critic and to be a critic is to be an enemy who must be erased and destroyed. There is no such thing as an honest critic to the PAP. It’s a blasphemy to criticise the emperor, spoilt son of heaven….

…Try and understand that the law is a vocation and not a business. Respect your client irrespective of the fees. I used to charge $1 for a murder case if he was Malay because he had no money. I used to charge $1 to trade unions; all Malay unions, I charged $1 a year. And the $1 is simply because, if you do it for nothing, you are not liable in negligence whereas $1 makes a contract and, if you are negligent, they can sue you…

…Even today, my friends say, ‘Oh, David, stop it! Why do you have to keep making public noises that annoy the government? Live in dignity and retirement. They’ll respect you and you’ll have the honours.’

Ha, honours! I want to fight till I’m dead!

What matters most in life is the right of human beings to live fully in the context of their own genius. In one word, perhaps, to fight for human justice. I once said humanity’s cry for human justice reverberates down the corridors of the centuries, and it is still crying for human justice…

I am especially moved by the part I marked in bold. And he is so right. The Singaporean people are stricken by a paralyzing materialism today. Yours truly here is also not spared, but only on a smaller degree. Little Speck writes beautifully about the decline in collective morality and the increasing individualism and self reliance in us.

Ah, the wisdom of David Marshall. And if he was still alive, he would have the lembeh pansies for lunch.

Fulfil a Sick Child’s Last Wish

November 24, 2007 - 5:09 pm No Comments

Despite losing her daughter to a bacterial infection last year, Natalia Tjahja bounced back from her grief to do something close to her heart – set up the Maria Monique Foundation LastWish. Through fulfilling their wishes, she wants to bring hope to terminally ill children. She has already reached out to 1,300 children in countries such as Indonesia, China and Vietnam and now plans to spread the joy in Singapore.

An extract from Natalia:

“Another child I met was in the ICU. He had been in a coma for 12 days and the doctors gave him only one month to live. When I visited him, I whispered in his ear that we will buy him a bicycle.

Soon he came out of the coma and returned home with a bicycle. He passed away seven months later. All this is a miracle, no?”

YOU can help create another miracle, by logging on to www.mariamonique.org or email her at monique_lastwish@yahoo.com.sg

Credits to SWW.

Special Needs Students evicted from NTUC

November 24, 2007 - 4:43 pm No Comments

From my understanding of the incident, the special needs students were not rowdy and they did not create any public nuisance of themselves. I used to see people staring at disabled people like they are some kind of unleashed animals when I was volunteering with them. Sometimes the adults will do nothing about educating their children when they are pointing and making rude remarks. There is certainly more to be done about educating the public and increasing the society’s acceptance towards a different people.

From another POV, is this another instance of poor PR handling from staff? More attention should be paid towards training for staff, especially executives and managers with regards to the management of the public and upholding of the corporate image..

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Special-needs students evicted

I WRITE with some indignation about the brusque treatment that a group of special-needs students received from a NTUC FairPrice executive on Nov 7.

The group of 14 Down’s, autistic and learning-challenged students were on an outing at FairPrice’s Queenstown branch, part of a routine to equip them with life skills, including doing simple tasks like going to the supermarket.

They were at the supermarket to complete a Home Economics worksheet helping them to search for basic food ingredients, and making price distinctions and purchasing decisions.

A few minutes into the visit, a woman executive approached the group and asked to speak to the teacher in charge.She insisted that the group should not be in the supermarket because prior permission had not been obtained.

She highlighted that the group’s presence might affect the level of service to other customers even though the students did not create any disturbance or inconvenience others.

The executive harped on the fact that the group was blocking an aisle even though the supermarket was relatively empty around 4pm.

Despite a gentle request to allow the students to complete their assigned task of identifying seven items, the executive refused to relent. The students were rather disturbed by the incident and asked why they had been evicted from the supermarket.

Although this was an isolated incident, it reminded me that our society still has some way to go towards being more accepting of people with special needs.

Despite their disability, they deserve basic respect and compassion, like any other person on the street.

Koh Siew Yuen (Mrs)

Police Detains Opposition Members Illegally

November 24, 2007 - 1:04 am No Comments

Chee Siok Chin of Singapore Democrat Party (sister of Chee Soon Juan) and John Tan were on their way to having a meal at Shangri-La at Orange Grove Road when they were stopped and manhandled into an unmarked vehicle to be taken away. I know some lousy summit is going on there but seriously.

Once again, foreign press will have a field day dissing our human rights stand (what human rights?) and paranoia of the opposition.

Is this another way of fixing the opposition? If so, I am afraid it has failed miserably. The blogosphere is abuzz with why the pair was detained illegally when they had not even made a peep of protest.

A simple incident of using a hammer to kill two ants.

Three boys, ages 8 and 9, were charged with raping an 11-year-old girl

November 24, 2007 - 12:17 am 1 Comment

I look at the boys in my neighbourhood, also around the ages of 7 – 9, playing with their bicycles and their gameboys, and I cannot imagine any one of them doing such a beastly deed. My elder girl is 9. Should I as a mother be paranoid?

Ger knows all about the birds and the bees as I don’t believe in keeping such things secret from the children. Better to hear the facts from their mother than to learn some distorted version from their peers. And she knows what is rape, sex and the anatomical differences between a man and a woman.

As a mother, I can only try my best to teach her all that I can on how to protect herself, be savvy and to be as street smart as she can.

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Three boys, ages 8 and 9, were charged Monday with raping an 11-year-old girl last week, court officials and police said.

“Never in my 20-plus years of law enforcement have I conceived of something like this,” Police Chief Michael Wilkie of Acworth, Georgia, told CNN.

Clad in blue jumpsuits, the boys appeared in court in Cobb County, north of Atlanta, on Monday afternoon and were ordered to remain in custody until a further hearing. Family members were in court for their appearance, which was closed to reporters.

Wilkie said the girl told investigators she was raped Thursday evening. She was examined by doctors after her family reported the allegation late Saturday, and investigators questioned her extensively on Sunday, he said.

The father of one of the boys told The Associated Press that no force was used against the girl, and said the allegations have been leveled because the accuser “didn’t want to get in trouble with her parents.” Video Watch chief describe parents’ reactions to charges against their sons »

But Wilkie said children that young cannot legally consent to sex, “so we have to go with the charges we have.”

He told the AP one of the boys was accused of threatening to hit the girl with a rock before the alleged assault.

He also said the investigation is “far from over,” and investigators are looking into claims that after the alleged attack, the girl talked about it with her friends at a slumber party, the AP reported.

“The investigators who are following up on this have had a lot specialized training of forensic interviews with children,” Wilkie told CNN. “We’ve sent them to a number of courses for this, and so we’re confident that we’ve done that part of the investigation as best as we can. We think her story at this point is credible and that’s why we went forward with the warrants.”

He said investigators have lined up counseling for the girl, “and we’ll follow up on this and hope that it comes to as best a resolution at the end as we can.”

The girl’s mother told WGCL-TV in Atlanta, “They do need to be taught a lesson because if they do it to her, they could do it to somebody else. And who knows when they become teenagers what they can do to other girls.”

Cobb County District Attorney Pat Head told reporters the current rape charges against the boys would be replaced with juvenile charges, since they are too young to be prosecuted on felony charges. Under Georgia law, juvenile defendants must be at least 13 before a case can be transferred to the adult system.
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The juvenile charges could bring up to five years probation and time in a state youth home if the boys are ruled delinquent.

Juvenile Court Judge A. Gregory Poole imposed a gag order on participants in the case, limiting further explanation, Head said.

Lawyer lies to get daughter into top school and gets suspended

November 23, 2007 - 2:49 pm No Comments

What is the education system of Singapore coming to?? That parents are pressurized to do “PV” (an uniquely Singaporean concept of parents volunteering at the school to try for a place) for their kids. That a professional like a lawyer would do something like lie and manipulate his way into getting a place for his daughter in a top school.

I sent my elder girl to CHIJ Kellock, not a “top school” but a very good school nevertheless that instill the values of integrity, character and resilience in their girls, primarily because of the proximity to my house. I have a girlfriend who stays nearby who sends her son to Anglo Chinese School which is like half the island away. The poor boy is so exhausted by the time he gets home! It’s a very good school, no doubts about that but is it really so very important to us parents that we send our children to the best schools? Do we need to consider other factors in the equation, namely the stress on the child to do well amongst his peers, the pressure on the child because of the school ranking and the insidious pressure from the parents from all that unspoken expectations and pride to be fulfilled?

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Chong Chee Kin
Thu, Nov 22, 2007
The Straits Times

DETERMINED to get his daughter a place in a reputable all-girls’ school in Bukit Timah, suspended lawyer Tan Sok Ling lied – first to a police officer, and then to the school’s vice-principal – that he was staying within one kilometre of the school.

He even paid $1,600 a month to use the address of a condominium apartment as his mailing address even though he did not stay there. (more…)