Just.

A recent incident got me thinking about things that happened almost two years ago. Looking back from a different and fresh perspective, I realize that I could be very harsh, curt and acerbic at times. When I am provoked, I aimed to hurt with the sharpest words I can garner. Seldom will I stop to put myself in the other person’s shoes or try to empathize with what they were feeling.

Time have passed. People change. I hope I have (for the better).

Being trapped in an abusive marriage and subsequently going through a difficult divorce, the anger and the prickly armour of self protection was sometimes manifested in an overactive and nasty temper. I really have to thank all my friends for embracing me with their friendship and forbearance. For the readers who have followed me from back then, thank you too for your acceptance and support.

Over time, while the temper is existent, I have managed to tame it quite a bit. While I now may not understand the motivation for another’s behaviour or or aggression, or condone certain negative actions, I try to react in a more positive manner.

After all, think about it. No one is completely bad, just as no one is completely good. No matter how arrogant and obnoxious you think that asshat might be, he can be a loyal friend. No matter how shallow or materialistic you think that girl might be, she can be someone’s  filial child. My point is, just because I might dislike something about a person, that does not and should not make him or her totally detestable or ‘gone case’.

In that, I think I am more forgiving and accepting of people these days.

Indeed, in the past if someone had done something that I perceive to be entirely despicable, that person is a pariah in my dictionary and I will whack a no hold barred and lethal backhand to that person. I cringed now when I recalled how bitchy, harsh and no holds barred nasty I could be to people. Now, I attempt (my best) to view it from that person’s perspective and try to understand why he or she had done something like that and if there could be any other factors that had prompted it. I try to react in a calm collected and focused manner.

Believe it or not, it has also helped me to glean much understanding about the other person’s character, strengths and weaknesses when I bother to contemplate like this. Therefore the perception of offense and anger is also lessened in this sense.

I do admit though that it is difficult to not take things personally when it is meant that way. I think I have progressed from being leaping out of my chair and firing off the machine gun – to standing up.. and then slowly sitting back down. I hope to be able to achieve  the state of nirvana one day – that is to not even standing up in the first, but to remain seated, calm and with understanding.

With that, I would like to sincerely apologize to the person(s) that I have (or inadvertently have) hurt your feelings or pride in the past. I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me.

The weather was gloriously sunny and breezy so we went for a walk in the estate.

Look at the scattered leaves on the ground. Our problems are but one leaf in the big scheme of things.

Pond at Kent Ridge Park

Feeding the turtles

‘Fishing’

Caught a leaf.

The scenery is simply breathtaking. I prefer to take a walk in the park a million times more than jostling with crowds in shopping centres or along Orchard Road. *shudder*

It almost felt like our own private park – it was that quiet and serene.

Hmm.. do not catch birds with your bare hands? Do not clench the bird in your fists? LOL

I think we will miss the park a lot when we move out end of this year. If there is one good thing that the government has done, it is National Parks. Hort Park is another place that is great for relaxation and kid friendly. Hopefully the next house we move into will be close to a park or amidst greenery.

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Pictures taken with the Nikon D60.

And so I am taking my leave from the protem committee of ABS. I have gleaned many life lessons from this episode, which  I will pen here in the near future to share with all.

Indeed it had been an eye opener that cannot be bought.

What is my reason for stepping down? Is it the backlash from some bloggers? Is it due to misunderstandings? Is it the heat that got to me?

I can say with confidence that it is not. I had already said so earlier on – I will step down after I had done what I should do as this is a protem committee after all. And so I am doing so to spend more time with my family and new work projects.

It has been a good journey – besides the valuable knowledge and experience, looking at things from different perspectives, conversations with different people, it’s also a litmus test of genuine friendship and respect.

Having said that, I hope readers can understand that I will not answer any official questions on behalf of ABS and to respect that it is an issue of honor and integrity not to reveal internal communications.

I would also like to take this chance to thank everyone for being so patient and for the great conversations we had in the earlier post.

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I would like to thank all my readers for their support

and wish everyone a

Happy and Prosperous Chinese New Year!

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Mrs Lim says

Luckily, I was given an idea by the Association of Bloggers (Singapore). Oxs are not known for their creativity anyway.

I hereby declare that I am forming the Association of Bloggers (Spinsters).

Spinster bloggers are like loose skin, they sag with time and are not united. They are also easily manipulated or banned at young forums for being too naggy and dispensing wise words of advise (eg. I eat more salt than you have eaten rice-> that’s why I need to go nkf).

The Association of Bloggers (Spinters) is a non-profit association (we need to save our money for the tummy tucks, face lifts and botoxs against fucking gravity. Bloody newton and his laws of gravity.) It is dedicated to promoting, protecting and educating its members about the best ways to nab men; and supporting the development of blogging as the new matchmaking platform. I hope eventually, the members of ABS will find suitable husbands.

What I am planning for my members :

1) Workshops conducted to educate spinsters on net etiquette and “how to flirt with that single cutie blogger”
2) Invite overseas eligible male (or meal. Depends on how you look at it) bloggers for a “hang-out” session with us.
3) Movie outing to “He’s Just Not That Into You”
4) Weekly bonding sessions on loser men, failed relationships and annoying relatives. I will cater a big room for the emotional baggages you lagged around, so do not worry about the lack of space.

Singaporean spinsters are invited to join this association. I am also thinking of engaging the government to think of policies to help us spinsters (eg. arranged marriages by law). Singapore is our country, and we spinsters have a duty to see that all our sisters are married.

We want to revive the ‘kampung spirit’ like the good old days, whereby our grandparents are married at young ages and have lots of children.

PS: Single male bloggers, please do not hesitate to email me

ROFL! Naughty puns and sly little self digs make this a good read for laughs.:)

My only gripe is – I feel so discriminated. Why only spinsters? I also need to meet overseas (or local also can!) eligible males leh…

PS: Single male bloggers, please do not hesitate to email me hor..

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I am bookmarking her site. It’s chockful of hilarious bits good for a pick me up (a little bit like the female version of sibehsian)

Mrs Lim: hmm, do you think I can wear black to a wedding?

Colleague: Can lah. People will understand

Mrs Lim: why will people understand?

Colleague: Cause black makes people look thinner mah.

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Things My Father Taught Me

There are two types of trouble…one is the trouble you knowingly walk into, the other is trouble that just happens…it’s important to know the difference.

Walk softly but carry a big stick.
If you have to use said stick, make sure who you use it on, doesn’t get up.

Foul language is a sign of a limited vocabulary.

Everyone is a friend until proven otherwise.

The phrases “I don’t know”, “I forgot”, or “I tried (and failed)” are excuses.

There is a difference between an excuse and a reason, know the difference.

The world can change everything about you, except your point of view…unless you allow it to.

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When it comes to defending my rights of self expression and freedom of blogging, I would be the first to tell anyone who wants to regulate my blogging to take a hike (and I am sounding nice here).

Having said that, I can hear you screaming, “Then what are you doing on the committee of an association that

1. regulate how bloggers blog;
2. has the chutzpah to represent all bloggers in Singapore;
3. teaches bloggers how to or what to blog?!”

The answers are ridiculously simple.

1. We do not presume to regulate or help people to regulate.
2. We do not want to, have never claimed to nor can we represent anyone. The Singapore tag is an indication of location and not territory.
3. We may organize workshops and seminars facilitated by qualified professionals but the choice is always up to the individual to attend.

There have been a few assumptions and questions over the last few days. The team has answered here and the below are my personal thoughts.

Protection

It is ludicrous to assume that any association can protect you if you commit an offense. Try asking a lawyer if the Law Society can protect him if he embezzles or slanders. Very clearly, the answer is no.

Validation

People are also asking why they should join the association to validify their status or existence as bloggers. My answer again is painfully simple. You don’t. You don’t join the Chinese Association to prove you are a Chinese. You don’t join AWARE to prove you are a woman. You join any association purely and simply because of either interest or passion. And if it’s not your cup of tea, don’t.

In fact, I was very surprised this question even came up.

Why set up an Association?

Then you may ask, so what is this Association for?

Plainly, and without the stuffy language of Constitution talk, here goes.

There is unity and strength in numbers. Simply, it is easier to organize any activity or workshop if the numbers are there. It is easier to get projects, opportunities and what nots if the numbers are there. Sure the ‘top bloggers’ get their projects, opportunities, their free wine and dine events, their freebie gadgets – but are they sharing it with you? You might argue that not everyone is interested in perks and opportunities but even celebrities are not exempt. To each their own, I say.

When we talk about educating bloggers, it is not about telling them how or what to blog. For example, I was a tech idiot and never knew how to use HTML, much less do blog templates or what nots. I wished that there were some kind of workshops where I can glean such hands-on knowledge, but there were none when I started out. It appears that I am not alone. Sure, you might be so smart that you never need any help, but there are others who do. Why be selfish and decline them the opportunity? Why stop us from building up a community of newbie or fledging bloggers? Why must we fill it with A list bloggers? Question, questions.

Government Lap Dog

Then there is the hooha about the government endorsement and about AIMS and Lam Pin in Today. I find the angle of the article regrettable, though the intentions of the reporter might be good. In that alignment and ‘endorsement’ by the establishment, bloggers viewed us as being establishment and government lap dogs.

What a joke. Many of us were openly critical of the government and policies from time to time in our blogs.

As for the conspiracy theory about us wearing white tops (and therefore PAP), I am not even going to justify that. American classics anyone?

Unity and individualism

The  beauty about every blogger is their individualistic entity. Everyone has their own method of expression and their own way of thinking. In seeking unity, we are not looking to make clones of everyone, but to help like- minded people forge a homogeneous identity. From the reactions of some, you’d have thought we are killing little babies.

Website

Some made an issue out of the wordpress free website even though we had already clearly explained that that it is a temporary site. I admit the timing was too tight, what with the Today article being published and the Association being registered just three days earlier.

In fact, this timing also affected many of our other logistics and marketing plans. Without going into too many details, I can just say that some things were beyond our control. We are now working on a proper website.

Nobody and A list bloggers

Ah.. this is my favourite -

‘Who are you to set up an Association? You bunch of nobody bloggers with dunno what credentials.’

I will be the first to admit I am a low profile blogger. You don’t and will never see me posting sex links or jumping on the ’scandals’ bandwagon to whore out for traffic. I also don’t buy into the elitist nonsense of A list, big time, top, celebrity or rock star bloggers and that the rest of us are ‘nobodies‘ or ‘lesser mortals‘.

Endoh asks which one do you prefer:-

Inviting only A-list/top bloggers because they are famous.

OR

Inviting even the commoners among the blogosphere to let them know they need not be A-list/top bloggers to also actively participate.

Yan Tan can cook, but is he in hot soup now?

Personally, I don’t give a flying dart about how much he is earning. You have money, power to you.

The unease is for the people who have lost their jobs, the people who cannot afford a meal, the man on the street.

In other words, zip it and count your blessings if you are blessed.

Don’t rub salt in injury.

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Elsewhere:

Agreeing that the rebuke in Parliament was “harsh”, MP Charles Chong noted that in the article, Mr Tan did not “brag” about how expensive the trip was. “Maybe it made lesser mortals envious and they thought maybe he was a little bit boastful,” he said. “Would people have taken offence if his wife (a senior investment counsellor at a bank) had paid for everything?”

<–Photo of the god-like MP Charles Chong from Pasir Ris-Punggol GRC.

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I am torn between facepalm and LOL.

I love blogs. I love the idea of social media though I may not like some of the pretentious grandeur lent to it by some. I love it for what it is – the insight into people.

In a plurk where a friend asked which superhero power we would like to have, many mentioned the power of mind reading. These few days have made me realize one thing.

Blogs lend that power of mind reading.

You can gauge the character of a person by the way he blogs. You can gauge the character of a person when he lies on his blog. You can gauge the character of a person by the contents of his blog.

Noise is good. Noise tells you what you need to know about a person, be it good or bad.

I have filtered quite an amount of noise over the last few days. There are well wishes, genuine feedback, misunderstandings due to information, abusive vulgarities, personal attacks and polite no-thanks. There is even a very funny msn conversation which I would have enjoyed more, if I had not disliked one of the participants immensely.

This noise is priceless – you pay a PR agency or a survey company and you might not get it.

Amidst the noise, two voices have stood out and they are excellent examples for the kind of reasonable, logical, not insane, not senseless and balanced kind of blogging that I (personally) would like to see more of in this blogosphere. While there are some issues in Brian’s post that will be addressed in our official website when it is up, he has grasped the essence of what I also believe in – the freedom of choice and the beauty of that freedom in social media.

If you don’t like to eat apples, by all means, don’t. Don’t stop others from eating it or say it tastes bad just because you don’t like eating apples.

The freedom of choice is also extended to accepting a difference in views or thinking amongst my friends. Will friends force each other to follow blindly or to monkey see monkey do? Are friends for you to manipulate or influence their thinking to suit your wishes or agenda? No. That, pretty much is obvious. To me, at least.

I respect integrity and honesty, even when it is showcased in a dissenting opinion. Incidentally, I am repelled by implied insults or contempt by sly riding on others’ coat tails or passive aggressive attacks.

How do I respond to haters and flamers? I don’t. Tina Fey has her own method of handling noise and addresses her haters in a hilarious ‘suck it’ speech, which I find rather amusing (love her!)

“If you ever start to feel too good about yourself, they have this thing called the Internet. And you can find a lot of people there who don’t like you.”

LOL.

What do you feel about or deal with noise?

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I will end by musing out loud about some questions.

Do Peranakans join the Peranakan Association to prove that they are nonyas or babas, or because of their culture, interest and passion?

Do women join AWARE to prove that they are women, or to pick up skills relevant to themselves?

Can the Chinese Association disqualify you from being a Chinese simply because you are not a member?

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Disclaimer: this is a personal musing post.

The beauty of the blogosphere flows in its fluidity. Indeed, there are all kinds of bloggers – the nonsensical, the bare its soul, the foodie, the shopping fanatic, the know it all, the beauty enthusiast, the kiss and tell, the guru etc. Like it or not,, they all have their own  audience.

Just like you don’t barge into a man’s home and tell him how to live his life, you don’t saunter onto another’s blog and tell him how to blog.

At least, that is what I believe.

I celebrate the beauty of the blogosphere and its freedom and sensibilities. I celebrate the difference in opinions and the diversity of personalities. I believe that people should have their freedom in blogging, just like readers should have the freedom of choosing.

Naturally, the liberal in me detests any form of OB markers imposed upon my blogging though common sense does steer me away from certain topics. I also find herd mentality confounding; when a person with an alternative opinion either gets herd attacked by a ‘like-minded’ group or is dismissed as an attention whore. Though, I must admit, it is true in some cases.

But such is the beauty of social media – everyone has their own opinion. There will always be attention whores who take an alternative stand or criticize just because. They will be isolated with the onward trending of new media and its community. Petty bitching and flaming defeats the purpose of social media and more importantly, diminishes the importance of social media in corporate consideration.

Having said that, when Eastcoastlife approached me to join the committee for the Association of Bloggers (Singapore), I was very inspired by the founding principles, and was happy to be part of the team.

I really like the idea of supporting the development of blogging as new media and to promote professionalism or responsibility in blogging. I know how many bloggers baulk at the thought of certain XX being the front of Singaporean bloggers (though I find her quite amusing) so this might be a good platform moving forward.

Things are moving rapidly. We are featured on Today, several community projects require bloggers’ participation, corporate opportunities are opening up – we have even lined up an eventful year of educational programs, ranging from writing workshops to heritage/nature trails and talks on media law.

The best thing is – there are no cliques or in groups – ALL are welcome! We warmly welcome all bloggers to join us in all our activities, events, outings etc.

How to pay your bills without (much) effort

How to irritate the shit out of people who hate your guts

Classic.

The gulf is getting wider, that’s why.

I don’t condone the act of violence to another human being, (provocation being another issue), but I think this incident says something about MP Seng Han Thong.

Either he is really very suay (he was punched by a 74 year old taxi driver in 2006) or he has EQ problems.

In both cases, the attackers are elderly men in their 70s. Interesting.

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Rachel.sg has won the World’s Greatest Business Mind!

Madonna has vowed to name her child after me. I was frontpage news on Business weekly and Sunday News. Babara Walters is interviewing me. Morgan Freeman thinks I am ‘warm, beautiful and intelligent’. Catch my movie to be released next year.

I am to be knighted by the Queen of England.

After an exhaustive search spanning thousands of nominees from five continents, the International Collective Council of Excellence has announced this year’s World’s Greatest Business Mind to universal acclaim and fanfare.

The decision was unanimous despite the fact the world-class shortlist comprised such well-known names as Steve Jobs, Warren Buffett, Bruce Wayne, George Soros, and that kid who invented facebook.

Credits to Cobalt Paladin for the good laugh! Have a good weekend ahead, folks.

We had a chance to visit Marina Barrage, a new place of interest when we brought the kids to the family carnival organized by PUB. Boy, was it a chore getting there without a car.

We took the train to Marina Bay station where there is a free shuttle bus service every half hour to the Barrage. Given the usual efficiency in civil service, the timings as shown in the shuttle notice were not accurate – the revised notice for the New Year’s Eve schedule was not reflected accordingly. If you are going on a weekend or public holiday, the timings are different from that of a weekday. Do check with the station personnel if you are unsure.

The walk to the ‘bus stop’ from the station took about 7 minutes and it is highly uncomfortable due to the lack of any shelter and the continuous flow of dust and exhaust fumes from the heavy industrial vehicles that drove past endlessly.

I cannot comprehend why the ‘bus stop’ cannot be located right outside the station. The shuttle is operated every half hour and will not cause any traffic jam. The shuttle also alights us quite a distance away from the Barrage – about 7 minutes walk. I am not impressed with the logistics planning. It would be better if you can drive there or go directly by taxi – less grief. Parking is available at carpark A – right beside the Barrage.

Given the inconvenience in getting there, I was glad the children had some form of fun once we reached the carnival.

Food stalls outside the Pump House

Not as grouchy as mummy

The Pump House which contains 7 massive water pumps

Playing in the ‘Water Balloons’

F1 zippers

Evening lights

You can even have a picnic here

I did the Colourgenics test two years ago and it seems that things have changed since then. I think it is interesting to see how things have evolved over the years. Why don’t you try it too?

You are seeking an affectionate relationship, offering fulfillment and happiness. You are capable of powerful emotional enthusiasm. Deep down, you are a kind loving person, always helpful and willing to adapt yourself if necessary to realise the bond of affection that you desire. But you need the same consideration and understanding from others and it is this need that will sometimes hold you back… so let go, trust and you may pleasantly surprised at what happens.

You are a leader in every sense of the word. You know where you are going and you know what you need to do in order to get there. You exercise an inherent initiative in overcoming obstacles and difficulties. You either hold, or wish to achieve, a position of authority by means of which full control can be exerted over events.

Conditions are rather confusing at this time. You would like to involved with a particular person or a particular situation but you are holding back. You find it difficult to make a decision.

As of late, you have been experiencing untold stress and this is a result of continuous frustration. You haven’t been taking care of all your physical needs and it’s beginning to show. It would seem that you have a need to find someone to whom you can really relate – someone perhaps whose standards are as high as your own. You want to be different – to be individualistic – to stand out from the common herd. Your inherent control of your sensual instincts is restricting your ability to give yourself to open up freely but this being on your own, being lonely, often makes you feel the need to give up some of your strict standards to surrender to the general flow – to be like everyone else; a part of the herd. Deep down you regard such instincts as weaknesses to be overcome. You would like to be loved or admired for yourself alone. You demand recognition and tender loving care.

You have so many ideas that you would like to revitalise but you need to realise a stable and peaceful condition to do so. Once you can free yourself from all the aggravation and tension around you, you will make strides that may amaze you. You will not be prevented from achieving all the things you so desire.

Mike Arrington of Techcrunch says they will break every embargo they agree to.

“The reason this is becoming a larger problem is because there is no downside to breaking embargoes. The PR firm gets upset but they don’t stop working with the offending publication or writer. You get a slap on the wrist, and you break another embargo later that day. Our new policy is to break every embargo. We’ll happily agree to whatever you ask of us, and then we’ll just do whatever we feel like right after that. We may break an embargo by one minute or three days. We’ll choose at random. There will be exceptions. We will honor embargoes from trusted companies and PR firms who give us the news exclusively.”

I am curious about the trend of PR here in Singapore. Are bloggers, journalists and publications penalized if they break embargoes?

Personally I understand the frustration and anger if one plays by the rules but is unfairly ‘penalized’ when unscrupulous players flout the rules of the game. However I still stand by the weight of one’s words especially when a promise is given.

I agree with Seth Godin when he says that

“Trust is really valuable and equally fragile.

You can fool us once, but probably not twice.”

“Go to a party and take embarrassing pictures of your friends to post on Facebook. That’s fun, certainly, but it’s possible that you won’t be quite as trusted next time.”

A word about protecting yourself

I don’t know about you but I guard my privacy rather fiercely. While I don’t mind saucy pictures being circulated in a closed group of friends, I don’t like to be tagged in Facebook. I don’t like my partying pictures to be posted on anyone’s blogs and certainly not Facebook. And I certainly will not appreciate any embarrassing pictures or videos to be posted ‘for a laugh’.

In other words, I think it is unwise to post incriminating  pictures where you cannot control or even know who is looking at them. Can you imagine your boss or clients looking at you looking drunk, dishevelled or behaving badly?

Have fun, yes, but be clever about it.

Today is the first day of another new year. What happened in 2008 for all of you? In the tradition of reminiscing,

1. We had our first Reunion Dinner with each other’s families.
2. I was headhunted to fill a position in April of last year. 
3. Started a small home-based business. Bearing in mind that I have no prior experience and my only currency is a sense of adventure and being willing to learn.
4. Started my studies as planned, though different major.
5. Slowly recovered from a bad slipped disc. Most people take their health for granted and that episode gave me a little reminder.
6. Experienced some unhappiness when I resigned and learned that I am not only not cut out to be a homemaker, I also strive on the feeling of power and control in job performance, appreciation, earning good money, successful juggling of work and family and most importantly, the overall sense of achievement.
7. Watched my page rank strangely fall from 3 to 2 to now 0.
8. Felt the need for more challenges.
9. Got featured in Vanilla.
10. Launched the new fashion and beauty site.
11. Moved to a new place – where the foliage and serenity got me smitten.
12. The girls started ballet.
13. Enjoyed home cooked food everyday
14. Revisited the boundaries of friendship and moved on after being taught a valuable lesson.
15. Germaine turned 10.
16. I started writing for the Online Citizen.
17. Was the featured blogger on Blog2u.sg.
18. Was interviewed and featured in Straits Times.
19. Withdrew into myself after some family unhappiness.
20. Had a quiet but happy Christmas.

My 10 personal projections for 2009

1. Given the current economic climate, it’s time to minimize debts and to build assets and savings. I am cutting down on my spending and putting aside more money.
2. Retail austerity – I will buy less trendy items especially those cheap pieces I buy on a whim and wear it only once or twice and then give it away. I also don’t need another bag to add to the existing 32 few. Plans to customize the walk in wardrobe have also been shelved. Ikea will do.
3. Cut down on travel plans – am canning the Paris trip (which had been postponed from last year’s planning). Somehow the thought of spending at least five figures on a trip alone seems rather  frivolous. We will only go for regional trips this year – not that I am complaining. I think we are already very blessed.
4. Continue on my learning journey.
5. We are definitely not buying a house this year – prices are still spiraling downwards.
6. Explore the options on my business model – I want to move out of retail and start focusing on wholesaling. I am also exploring social enterprising.
7. To reconsider my career options. I’ve been a personal assistant for the last 12 years and I have no complaints – after all it’s easy for me now and the money is good. But I have been feeling the itch to teach or to write and the main point of consideration is surprise, surprise – money. I am not being materialistic but the truth remains that I find great satisfaction in making (more and more) money and I don’t know if I can stomach the pain of a pay cut. Is it wise in this economic climate? Will I start feeling unhappy and useless? I have to give it a good think-through carefully.
8. To carry on juggling work, business and family in a harmonious manner.
9. I really need to start to learn how to drive – I just need to find a good English speaking instructor.
10. And no, we are not getting married this year (Nadnut, I can heeeear your tsk tsks already)

I think it’s good to do a cap of what happened the year before and to do a projection for the next year so that we know where we are going and how we are getting there. Care to share on your own plans? Do a pingback to me so that I can pop in and take a peek.

And since it’s such a long post already, I leave you with a song, which I thought echoes the spirit of the new year and the promise of a fresh start.

If you wander off too far, my love will get you home.
If you follow the wrong star, my love will get you home.
If you ever find yourself, lost and all alone,
get back on your feet and think of me, my love will get you home.
Boy, my love will get you home.

If the bright lights blinds your eyes, my love will get you home.
If your troubles break your stride, my love will get you home.
If you ever find yourself, lost and all alone,
get back on your feet and think of me, my love will get you home.
Boy, my love will get you home.

If you ever feel ashamed, my love will get you home.
When there’s only you to blame, my love will get you home.
If you ever find yourself, lost and all alone,
get back on your feet and think of me, my love will get you home.
Boy, my love will get you home.

If you ever find yourself, lost and all alone,
get back on your feet and think of me, my love will get you home.
Boy, my love will get you home,
Boy, my love will get you home.