Posts Tagged ‘Education’

I am not a fan of tuition

February 5, 2009 - 1:09 am 2 Comments

*Cues thunder and lightning* Am I the only remaining Singaporean parent to feel this way?

I am not against having tuition for the kids if they need help but I am against having tuition for the kids if you want to ace everyone else, ace everything and to play the senseless one up game with everyone else. I know some parents who are proud to have their kids tutored in all the subjects just to be ‘ahead’ in the rat race.

This is like winning in the Special Olympics. If you need to ask why, stop reading.

I have never forced tuition on Germaine because

  1. she doesn’t need it.
  2. I don’t need her to glorify me with her results
  3. honestly, who found the stuff they learned in school relevant when they started working? I am not the only one who feels this way. Big shot investment banking lawyer also ok.

I also rebel against positioning education as a win or lose situation. I hate the way our education system pushes parents and students to choose courses which are “useful”, “practical” or “in-demand” (rather than the courses for which the student has a genuine interest).

This education system also ostracized people who may not score well academically, but are nevertheless talented and intelligent. Now it begs the question,

“Are examinations the only way to gauge your potential, talent and intelligence?”

I have friends who will never dream of sending their kids to Sports School in case the children ‘don’t have something to fall back on’. Is this the fault of the parents? No.

This is the fault of this elitist government who has worshipped the God of Academic Results. An ‘A team‘ which has lost (only) billions in investments  and came up with gems like Job Credit Scheme.

Lastly, look at poor Rebecca Wong (or rather, poor Rebecca Wong’s parents).

ST Nov 29, 2008
Tuition not the way to success

WHEN I collected my Primary School Leaving Examination (PSLE) results in 1985, I was told I had been selected to attend a Special Assistance Plan (SAP) secondary school. This sudden ‘promotion’ did my parents proud but it gave me much stress. The moment I started at the SAP school, I fell from being the top girl to being among the top 15. For the first time in my life, I knew I was simply ‘not good enough’ and was bitterly disappointed with myself.

Since almost everyone ahead of me had tuition of various kinds, I told my parents I needed help too.It was not long before my single-income family began to channel huge amounts towards education investment – tuition for me and my three siblings. One day, the principal of my SAP school in Katong asked to meet my parents concerning my lacklustre grades. He wanted me to drop chemistry and English literature specifically, ’so as not to pull down the school standard’. After my mother pleaded with him tearfully, this humiliating episode ended with more tuition for me and less retirement funds for my food-seller parents. In all, I had tuition in six out of 10 subjects, not because I did badly, but because I was not good enough to achieve the As and Bs the school was furiously churning out ….

Rebecca Wang

Association of Bloggers – clearing up the doubts

January 24, 2009 - 11:54 am 72 Comments

When it comes to defending my rights of self expression and freedom of blogging, I would be the first to tell anyone who wants to regulate my blogging to take a hike (and I am sounding nice here).

Having said that, I can hear you screaming, “Then what are you doing on the committee of an association that

  1. regulate how bloggers blog;
  2. has the chutzpah to represent all bloggers in Singapore;
  3. teaches bloggers how to or what to blog?!”

The answers are ridiculously simple.

  1. We do not presume to regulate or help people to regulate.
  2. We do not want to, have never claimed to nor can we represent anyone. The Singapore tag is an indication of location and not territory.
  3. We may organize workshops and seminars facilitated by qualified professionals but the choice is always up to the individual to attend.

There have been a few assumptions and questions over the last few days. The team has answered here and the below are my personal thoughts.

Protection

It is ludicrous to assume that any association can protect you if you commit an offense. Try asking a lawyer if the Law Society can protect him if he embezzles or slanders. Very clearly, the answer is no.

Validation

People are also asking why they should join the association to validify their status or existence as bloggers. My answer again is painfully simple. You don’t. You don’t join the Chinese Association to prove you are a Chinese. You don’t join AWARE to prove you are a woman. You join any association purely and simply because of either interest or passion. And if it’s not your cup of tea, don’t.

In fact, I was very surprised this question even came up.

Why set up an Association?

Then you may ask, so what is this Association for?

Plainly, and without the stuffy language of Constitution talk, here goes.

There is unity and strength in numbers. Simply, it is easier to organize any activity or workshop if the numbers are there. It is easier to get projects, opportunities and what nots if the numbers are there. Sure the ‘top bloggers’ get their projects, opportunities, their free wine and dine events, their freebie gadgets – but are they sharing it with you? You might argue that not everyone is interested in perks and opportunities but even celebrities are not exempt. To each their own, I say.

When we talk about educating bloggers, it is not about telling them how or what to blog. For example, I was a tech idiot and never knew how to use HTML, much less do blog templates or what nots. I wished that there were some kind of workshops where I can glean such hands-on knowledge, but there were none when I started out. It appears that I am not alone. Sure, you might be so smart that you never need any help, but there are others who do. Why be selfish and decline them the opportunity? Why stop us from building up a community of newbie or fledging bloggers? Why must we fill it with A list bloggers? Question, questions.

Government Lap Dog

Then there is the hooha about the government endorsement and about AIMS and Lam Pin in Today. I find the angle of the article regrettable, though the intentions of the reporter might be good. In that alignment and ‘endorsement’ by the establishment, bloggers viewed us as being establishment and government lap dogs.

What a joke. Many of us were openly critical of the government and policies from time to time in our blogs.

As for the conspiracy theory about us wearing white tops (and therefore PAP), I am not even going to justify that. American classics anyone?

Unity and individualism

The  beauty about every blogger is their individualistic entity. Everyone has their own method of expression and their own way of thinking. In seeking unity, we are not looking to make clones of everyone, but to help like- minded people forge a homogeneous identity. From the reactions of some, you’d have thought we are killing little babies.

Website

Some made an issue out of the wordpress free website even though we had already clearly explained that that it is a temporary site. I admit the timing was too tight, what with the Today article being published and the Association being registered just three days earlier.

In fact, this timing also affected many of our other logistics and marketing plans. Without going into too many details, I can just say that some things were beyond our control. We are now working on a proper website.

Nobody and A list bloggers

Ah.. this is my favourite -

‘Who are you to set up an Association? You bunch of nobody bloggers with dunno what credentials.’

I will be the first to admit I am a low profile blogger. You don’t and will never see me posting sex links or jumping on the ’scandals’ bandwagon to whore out for traffic. I also don’t buy into the elitist nonsense of A list, big time, top, celebrity or rock star bloggers and that the rest of us are ‘nobodies‘ or ‘lesser mortals‘.

Endoh asks which one do you prefer:-

Inviting only A-list/top bloggers because they are famous.

OR

Inviting even the commoners among the blogosphere to let them know they need not be A-list/top bloggers to also actively participate.

Between the two, which of them looks more like elitism to you? Again, I present the case and you – the reader – will figure out the answer by yourself.
I cannot help but be amused by some bloggers mocking about ‘nobody bloggers‘ because they are showing the exact same kind of hypocrisy and elitism that they love to mock so much in their posts about politicians and elites in Singapore. What gives? That’s why I said – noise is good. It shows you up for who you are.

Nevertheless, I repeat, this is a protem committee. There is nothing to stop ‘big time’ or ’small time’ bloggers to come on board to head the helm. This ‘big time’ and ’small time’ issue is really moot.

Also, people are wondering why we are disrespectful of the more popular bloggers and did not invite them. We did. One did not even deign to reply. Many others cannot commit due to their work commitments. One is now aggressively attacking the association because of a perceived slight of non invitation. The truth is, we did not invite him because of his anonymous status – you will need to declare your personal particulars to be on the committee, and such information is available to the public at a fee.

So why have top bloggers not come out to form their own Association? From personal experience, I know it takes a lot of work to register an Association. It is easy to talk about it, but who will execute the work?

Approval and Permission

Red bean thought we were seeking permission or approval to cover events. Instead, we were referring to getting behind the scenes/ interviewing the players/ performers etc.

Fees

This was a channel where bloggers were truly constructive (and honest) with their feedback, and we thank them for it :) We are looking into things now.

Personal attacks/ agendas

Much of the criticisms have  stemmed from personal attacks on the President. I reserve my comments on this but will instead address the other points.

The minority which criticized the core values of Association didn’t get most of it right because of the little information available. We apologized for that on the site and promised more information over time which was seen here.

You would have also realized that we have provided very little information in this site. We have to apologize for that but we will be thankful if you could give us some time. Be assured, you will see more information over time until the official website is up and running.

But still, there were plenty a judgments based on guesswork and assumptions, which made people question their agendas. Even whose who claimed to be social media experts or enthusiasts were not exempt. And then there are those who jumped on the bandwagon and linked others‘ attacks to mock us. The things some people do to whore for mere traffic is quite appalling and pathetic.

I am still bemused by those who feel the need to go all out to attack (note: I did not say criticisms). You choose nasi lemak and your friend chooses meepok – do you give him a big slap? My personal mantra is always, don’t like, don’t join/ eat/ see/ participate/ whatever. This strange need to smack down the alternative reeks of herd mentality.

Though some might say they are helping us to publicize for free…

And then there were some who felt sore and ego-bruised. They questioned: who did we think we are to be on the committee? Why did we not ask them? These people did not stop to think for one moment that we are paving the way for them and they are welcome to step into the shoes if they want to. Again, do versus talk?

Do we have such power?

There are talks that the association is breaking up and dividing the blogosphere. First, we are accused of being ‘kuching kurap‘. At the next instance, we have such nerve-breaking power. :)

This is a highly individualistic and fragmented identity in the first place. Bloggers (and anybody else) have the freedom of choice. What segregation is there in that?

Does it  mean that when you are a food blogger and I am a pet blogger, you are not with me and therefore against me?

I hope we have more common sense than that.

At the end of the day

After the legwork is done, and now that the Association is registered, I can and will step down at any time so that others can have a chance to serve.

You want to be on the committee and work your arse off? Most welcome :) Please contact me at me at rachel dot sg. I am not joking.

There are genuine feedback and there are the haters – we will respond positively to the former and ignore the latter.

Attention and traffic whores who have taken cheap shots can eat their shorts. No, they are not good enough to eat mine. :)

It’s been a powerful learning experience and exposure.Pay money also don’t have ok. ;)

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Elsewhere: Lycan Times on Blogosphere

Grades aren’t everything

November 12, 2008 - 2:00 pm 2 Comments

I am not fascinated with grades per se. And no, I am not a negligent mum. I just dislike the idea of grades being all indicative of a child’s understanding and intelligence. Unconventional perhaps, but not that radical.

So far, Germaine has not had any tuition, despite her weak grades in Mathematics. She doesn’t like the idea and prefers being taught by us – conveniently ignoring the fact my blood pressure shoots up every time I have to coach her. And have you seen those Primary Maths questions lately? Still, they are trying to ‘boost primary education‘. Enough already! If this trend continues, all the monetary incentives they throw up cannot convince me to have a third child.

Anyway, my refusal to let grades define my child’s intelligence does not mean that I do not praise her when she does well.

Similarly, when she scores reasonably good marks, I don’t let up on her if I know that she can score better and has started being complacent.

My point is, grades are not a complete indicator of a child’s education. In some cases, some children cannot handle the stress and their nervousness during examinations and end up not doing as well as they could in normal circumstances.

Another reason why I feel that grades should not be all indicative of a child’s intelligence and abilities is also because some children might be late bloomers. If your child could not speak well even to the age of nine, did poorly in school and had a teacher who told you that he ‘could not amount to anything’, would you feel that he is a ‘gone case’?

Well, I would hardly label Albert Einstein as a ‘gone case’.

Not every one of our children may be gifted academically but I believe that every child has his or her own talent. I have known children who have flunked their academic subjects but who are good in the kitchen, sports or arts. And who is to say that these children are failures?

It is our society and our culture that determines academia to be the ultimate success. Don’t be deceived or trapped by the herd mentality. It is people like Bill Gates and Sim Wong Hoo who are laughing their way to the bank.

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I have a story that I would like to share with my readers.

There was once a boy whose nickname is “Dummy”. He was in 5th grade and thought that he was stupid. Although he grew up in a very poor neighborhood in Detroit his mother, who worked as a domestic,  believed that he and his older brother could only succeed through education.  She worked 2, sometimes 3 menial jobs to take care of them.

His mother restricted TV watching and required that her sons attend the library regularly.  She required that they provide her 2 book reports each week.  She would return the book reports with a check mark on them as a satisfactory grade. He would not learn until much later that his mother could not read.

Today, he is the director of pediatric neurosurgery at Johns Hopkins Children’s Center. His name is Dr Benjamin Carson. Read his story here.

That is a mother who is lowly educated but raised a child who became more than a graduate. So much for eugenics, MM Lee.

And that is a mother who believed in her child, despite him believing that he was a “Dummy”. Do we believe in our children in the same way?

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Next up: Point #2 on education – stop the mollycoddling and babysitting.

Are you a snob?

January 29, 2007 - 10:34 am 2 Comments

So are you a snob? I like to believe that I am not, and here’s why.

Food

I can eat at hawker centres or coffeeshops. I love “tai pai” stalls (roadside stalls). I love local hawker fare as much as I love the fine french cuisine of Le Jardin.

Fashion

I don’t believe in a full designer wardrobe or couture, and neither can I afford to. Instead, I prefer high street brands like Zara, Mango, Bebe, Topshop and Dorothy Perkins; and the quirky labels from one off shops in Bangkok and Hong Kong. However I do have an incurable weakness for designer bags and shoes, particularly leather totes and three inch killers. I love Cartier and Omega watches, preferably with diamonds. And I do so love diamonds. Am wildly allergic to zirconia. It’s a dirty word in my dictionary.

Friends

As for friends, I only have a handful. No, I can count them on one hand, that’s pushing it already. Clearly I believe in quality and not quantity. Sometimes I think I am a little anti-social, preferring to be alone most of the times. And I have a very wide personal space; I hate crowds and people touching me on public transport, especially when there is ample space to move. I am fiercely loyal to my friends and I expect the same in return. Only two things I cannot forgive and that is; tittering behind my back (that means you CAN bitch to my face, I’d appreciate that more) and betrayal.

None of that Ms Popularity for me where you have friends everywhere and everyone’s your best friend. No sirree. Life’s too short for such nonsense.

I had a best friend of twelve years (since age 4!) and she threw it all away for a man. She stole my very first boyfriend, can you believe it. Needless to say, I axed both dead weights out of my life. Goodness if you have friends like that, who needs enemies? I don’t forgive. Yes, that’s a sin, but whatever. And the sweetest thing in this mini saga was that I met him again when I was flying and looking the most fabulous ever (read: size 8 and young, hah!) and he was wriggling back into my life. Be it suffice to say that I milked him nicely of expensive fancy dinners, designer bags and shoes, ridiculously expensive concert tickets, then told him “it’s not working out darling”. Ah, revenge is evil… but sweet. As for said ex best friend, the last I heard was she was rapidly being known as someone who can be had for a song. A note, rather. Not that I care.

Books

As for reading material, I really prefer writers like Murakami, Philip Roth, Naomi Wolf and Zadie Smith to the likes of Nora Roberts and Victoria Holt. You get the drift. I do so not like romance or girly novels. But having said that, I did vastly enjoy Lauren Weisberger’s The Devil Wears Prada but only because it centres mainly on fashion.. I tried the Shopaholic series by Sophie Kinsella. No offense to her fans, but I was extremely irritated by the unbelievably bimbotic ways and stupidity of her protagonist. So, I guess I am a little of a book snob. Well, life’s really too short for bad books…

Character

Crass people do so get on my nerves. Just the other day at the Wheelock Nokia care centre where I brought my N70 to be diagnosed, there was this Indian man who looked very pleasant and educated. That is, until he opened his mouth. And oh boy, was it foul. The poor customer service girl was berated with the harshest words which she definitely did not deserve. The air was thick with sentences like “Your two hours are not the same worth of my two hours”, “Why do I have to come at least once a week to see your face” and the clincher, “You are not in charge of Nokia. You are only working for them and at a minion level too. Get your manager to see me now!”

And he had the cheek to turn to me and smile! The nerve! What, did he think that I would be impressed by his fluent outburst? I shot him a glacier stare, and it was too good for him.

Yes, I could be a snob to such people. And speaking of a foul mouth, I am reminded by this person I know. Actually I was warned by several friends that she “has a stinking mouth”. But I always believe in making my own decisions and in not pre-judging people before giving a chance to disprove any rumour, so I did go out with her on a group social occasion. And foul mouth she has. The entire evening had her sniping, gossiping snarkily and making negative remarks about all and sundry. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against the occasional bitching and sniping that is soooo good for the soul. But, to deliberately suss out others’ faults and gloat over them, and to constantly harp on negatives… That’s really too off putting for me. Didn’t your mum teach you?

IF YOU HAVE NOTHING GOOD TO SAY, SOMETIMES IT’S BETTER TO JUST ZIP IT.

Education

I think I am a bit of a snob when it comes to education. I believe that Ivy League colleges are somewhat superior to our local university – though not because of the ‘overseas’ factor. Getting an education overseas that nurtures forces you to think is simply more superior to the moddly spoonfeeding “only one answer is correct” style of teaching here. I also found that 9 out of 10 of every NUS graduate that I have met in the course of my work for the past twelve years are unresourceful, uninspired and sadly dependent creatures. So, if you are that 1 person, don’t get too fidgety ok? You should be very proud, as all 9 of your fellow cohort are idiots.

Lifestyle

I cannot stand sad stupid people who feel the need to assert their superiority in pouring liquor down their throats. What, very gung ho and macho is it? Why waste good liquor and pollute the air further with your cigarette smoke and the nonsense you sprout when dead drunk? Slow poisoning is  boring, and you burden the people around you when you get liver cancer and start begging for charity. Best to buy a bottle of bleach and get it over and done with. But don’t die in inconvenient places, like MRT stations, bus stops or what nots ok? Go to some quiet corner where you will not be missed.

Don’t get me wrong again, I love my Irish cream, champagne, vodka and red wine. But I do so like to enjoy the taste and the relaxation, as opposed to raucously downing said liquor and announcing to the whole world “Hey, I am drinking! I am doing a bottoms-up!” *rolls eyes* (think of the ah bengs shouting, “tah ah!!!” *shudder*)

Same goes for sad sad men who feel emasculated without a trophy model on their arms or a trophy car in the parking lot. Why, feel like a wimp without a sports car to validate your worth is it? It’s so sad! No, it’s not sad, it’s amusing.

Same for braggarts who love to brag about their culinary/ whatever/ insert boring activity skills or riches to people like me who really really don’t care.

Having said all that, I am not and can never be, a snob to others who are not on par in terms of economic comfort. In my last trip to Bangkok, I was very deeply affected by women begging by the roadside with their young daughters. One in particular, looked as young as Geanyne and my heart really went out to her. And she was so obedient too, just standing patiently beside her mother on the road. The first thing I thought of was, why is the mother not working?! But the very next second, it struck me that not everyone is as blessed as I am to have received an education, or even have the “luxury” of a job. The little girl may not, and most probably will not have the luxury of an education and may have to walk in the path of her mother’s life, or much worse. Then I felt the futility of it all and couldn’t help but tear up. I still do, every now and then when I think of that little girl standing by the road, it’s like her small self against the whole world.

Anyway, I hate talking and no action, so we’ve agreed that for our next trip back there, we are going to buy some stuff for her, that is, if she’s still there. You can’t save them all, but at least you can make a difference, no matter how small, in one little life.